Bulsha:- When two different human beings have a relationship together, it is natural that the occasional disagreements and even conflict. That’s why, in fact we are all encouraged to have good conflict management skills if you want a pair. With good management, conflict in a relationship is not to be a threat or a destroyer of relationships, but as a means for both partners to communicate and compromise. Thus, the couple became more familiar with each other, and the relationship became more solid.
Here, I share three things you can do when faced with a conflict with a partner. But remember, do these 3 things in the same day when a conflict occurs. Never delay the settlement of the conflict. Never harbored resentment. Do not let the night pass to the circumstances you are still cranky with a mate.
Soothe Emotions
Note deh, when arguing, most people use a higher tone and volume faster than usual. As if so, the argument that they can break into the thick wall covering ears their interlocutors. When in fact during an argument, it should not shout. So that the other person can hear you think, not just to hear your voice alone.
So, when you’re upset that could not withstand the emotion, take a deep breath and calm down first before starting to deliver opinion.
I am sorry
Although it is not you that is wrong, first of all apologize in advance. Not because you are wrong, but because you (and she) are human and equally not perfect, and therefore you both so had to face this problem.
Convey this with a sincere apology. If necessary, clutching his hand. The aim is that you and she remembered, this is not about you against him. But about you and him, against dissent.
Communication
Sounds easy. Communication. But practice? Occasionally we stumble prestige and ego that wants to be understood without going to give an explanation.
Though not hard. It’s the formula: Delete “You NEVER want to understand me!”, Replace so “We both learned, yes, I try understand you, you try to understand me. We find a middle ground for both of us. “It’s cool, right?
So, you mean to say clearly and without stubbornness. Then, hear purposes without the attitude he wants to fight. Do not listen to respond, but listen to understand. Do not focus on winning personal arguments, but both focus on victory. For continuity of relationships and happiness together.
Once you both communicate their respective views, proceed with a compromise. Then cover with a sweet kiss as appreciation because you both have to win against the odds. This is not the end. This is just the initial victory. Congratulations, and I hope we are all ready to win many other obstacles in the future.
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Xafiiska Shabakada Bulsha
UK- Leicester united kingdom
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