Bulsha:- Does this conversation sound familiar?
Person 1: we should get drinks sometime
Person 2: sure
Person 1: cool
Person 2: when?
Person 1: whenever works for you
Person 2: did you have something in mind?
Person 1: not really Person 2: ok
Person 1: cool Like, what just happened?
Wouldn’t it be seriously beautiful if that conversation looked more like this:
Person 1: Hey, would you want to get drinks together this weekend?
Person 2: sure! when?
Person 1: Friday at 7 sound good? I’ll pick a place
Person 2: great see you then
The point is… GET TO THE POINT. The more clear you are about your wants and needs, the faster you will learn if you are on the same page and can move forward accordingly.
It manifests doubt and insecurity.
A common mistake lots of people make is thinking by “playing hard to get” or “playing it cool,” they’re preventing themselves from coming across as too needy or possessive.
In reality, this often actually looks like you’re being an aloof, uninterested or rude person. A classic example of this is the conversation listed above.
It leaves Person 1 wondering why Person 2 messaged them in the first place. Playing games is a surefire way to avoid commitment or show your cards, creating lots of room for doubt. And doubt completely derails true love from forming. Your best bet is to be straightforward and clear with your intentions.
If you enjoy someone’s company and want to spend more time with them, simply say, “Had a great time hanging out with you the other night. Would love to do it again.” Best-case scenario? They say, “Great!” Worst-case scenario? They say “no” or give you a vague response. But even if the response is vague, now you know where you stand. Be brave. Be honest.
Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/playing-games-finding-true-love/1755430/
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Xafiiska Shabakada Bulsha
UK- Leicester united kingdom
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